The other day my niece and my sister stopped by and it was the funniest thing to me that when I saw my niece, she immediately pointed out a flaw of mine which I’ve disliked for years and never fixed. I love how honest kids are. I always say if you want the truth, ask a 6 year old. My niece had pointed out to me the fact that my two front teeth aren’t straight. I laughed and thanked her for being honest with me. She means well and I know she loves me ;).
The “flaw” or “imperfection” she pointed out was my teeth. You can’t tell in photos sometimes, but my tooth in the front is a little crooked and slightly goes over the other one. To some this may seem little but it’s always been something that bugged me. I’ve thought about getting invisalign but girl has to save for a wedding!
I recently came across “GOMI” which literally is a forum online for people to talk about bloggers on there and not in a good way. I’ve seen comments ripping a part bloggers on their looks, their writing and other imperfections. You really can’t do anything right without them picking you apart. I’m not sure what the point of it is or why these people continue to read the blog when they clearly have issues with the blogger in the first place. I always wonder why we choose to take others down sometimes when we live in such a crazy and crude world to begin with. The least we can do is support others in their own journey to whatever they might be trying to accomplish. Why bring each other down? On social media, we all try to “portray” a perfect world. The perfect post. The perfect item of clothing. The perfect life. Etc. Etc. My life is far from perfect and I have a lot of imperfections and I will be the first to admit that to you. I can choose to list them all here but I’m not going to do that. I want my readers to know that what I post on Instagram or what I post on my blog is a small fraction of myself that I choose to share with all of you. I would hope others assume this as well.Thinking back to what my niece chose to say to me didn’t hurt me. It was kind of funny and I accepted it because hey, I think the same thing too! And I’m not perfect!
It’s funny to me sometimes that I choose to have this blog where I am constantly putting myself out there to be picked on in a similar way.
If someone does choose to criticize me, even if I don’t see or hear it, that’s OK. As a blogger, I choose to laugh it off, much like I did with my niece, and keep doing what I’m doing because I think that’s the only way we can honestly survive these days anyways, am I right? How people respond is not in my control in any way shape or form and that’s perfectly OK.
My only wish is this: The next time a human being decides to criticize another for their looks, their writing, or whatever it may be, I hope they remember we are all fighting our own battles and internal demons, even if you may not see it on social media or heck, a stranger on the street or even your coworker.
To quote Marilyn Monroe, who was constantly criticized while in the public eye, “Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”