I turn 32 in about two weeks and I am in total denial! I keep thinking I’m just turning 31 (wishful thinking) because I am amazed how quickly the last 2 years have gone by! Turning 30 was definitely dramatic for me. I actually cried the day of. Looking back at it now I laugh but it was a very emotional day (and week of) knowing that I was no longer considered to be a 20 something. I don’t know what it was about turning 30 that made it feel like my life was over?!? I think it was because I had created a list of things and milestones in my head while I was in my 20s that I wanted to accomplish by then and most of them did not happen. At least the milestones that I thought were “important.” I was still trying to figure out who I was while other people my age had a steady career or were married with 4 children already.I always look back on my 20s and think about how I would do things differently if I could. I know that the decisions I made in my 20s have led me to who I am today and for that I am very grateful. Today, I’m sharing some valuable lessons I’ve learned so far into my 30s, and what I wish would’ve known or realized as a 20 something.
1. You Will Not Have Anything Figured Out (And That’s OK)
No one has anything figured out ever and you’re not a failure if you don’t.
2. Enjoy the Freedom of Being Single
I was in a relationship for 6 years which was most of my 20s. Looking back at it now, I always wished I would’ve just enjoyed my 20s being single. 6 years is a long time to dedicate to someone you knew you were probably not meant to be with in the first place.
3. It’s OK If You Do Not Own A Home/Are Not Married/Do Not Have Kids By 30
This is definitely something I’ve had to come to terms with. My parents had a house, were married, and had 4 kids by the time they were my age. But then again, that was more than 30 years ago. Times have changed drastically and being married with kids does not at all determine who you are as human being or your worth.
4. Your Grandparents Won’t Be Around Forever
Not a day goes by when I don’t think of my Nonna. I always wish I would’ve spent more time with her before she passed away. Going to visit more, staying for an espresso when she offered, or simply just calling her up to say hello are all things I wish I would’ve done more when I had the opportunities to do so.
5. Your Mom Is Right About Most Things
As much as I hate to admit it, my mom was right about most things. I wish I would’ve listened to my mom when she told me that I should consider another major or that the guy I dated in my 20s probably wasn’t right for me. I didn’t want to admit it then, but knowing what I do now, my mom was right about most things.
6. The Value of a College Degree
While it has led me to who and where I am today, I wish I would’ve not gotten my college degree in acting. I think this is one of the single biggest regrets in my life. It was my choice to no longer pursue acting once I turned 27, a decision that was a huge relief for me. Once I made that decision, my career was able to take off in a way I had always dreamed of.
7. You’re Going To Marry The Man of Your Dreams In Your 30s
If anyone would’ve told me this in my 20s after getting my heart broken at 26, I would have not believed it for a second. Going through a terrible break up and being single for 2 years made me slightly bitter and lose hope for a decent man. Looking back at it now, I am so thankful I went through heartbreak and was single for a little while.
My world has completely changed for the better since Hector came into my life, and now he’s going to be stuck with me forever 😉
8. The Importance of Travel
When I was single and in my late 20s, I had the opportunity to travel a bit more. I had never traveled alone anywhere and being single provided me endless possibilities to do whatever the heck I wanted without having to worry about anyone else. I didn’t realize this until much later into my 20s just how important traveling was and how happy it made me.
9. The Value and Friendship of a Best Friend
I had a couple of best girl friends from elementary through high school. Once we got to college, we had unfortunately grown apart. It wasn’t until later in my 20s I realized that making an effort to see or keep in touch with my best friends was something I wish I would’ve done more and still regret today.
10. The Unconditional Love of Family
Deaths, a break up, and going through a depression when I was 20 helped make the realization that in the end, it was family that was always there for me. As much as I pushed my mom away in my 20s or felt pressured from my family to do things a certain way, they were the ones to pick me up, make me laugh, and love me unconditionally.
With that, my 30s have been great so far and honestly the last couple of years of my life have been the absolute best. I can’t wait to see what 32 has in store for me!
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